The Relationship Reflection

Some couples come to celebrate. Some come because life has got busy and they want to find each other again. Both are welcome.

These few questions help get your time together right. You can fill this in together, or each do your own. There are no right answers. We won't share one person's answers with the other unless you want us to.

From your answers, we'll make you a short scaffold, something you can use together from the day you get it.

1. How are things between you right now?

Why we ask: So we can meet you where you are.

Examples

Good. We just want to celebrate.
Close, but worn out. Life's been full on.
We've been a bit like flatmates lately. We want to find each other again.
It's been a hard year. We need some time that's just for us.
It's our tenth anniversary and we want to mark it.

2. What do you love most about each other?

Why we ask: It's good to start with what's working.

Examples

We still make each other laugh.
She always has my back.
He brings me a cup of tea every morning without being asked.
We're a good team, even when things are hard.
After all these years, we still like each other.

3. What would you like more of?

Why we ask: If we know, we can help make room for it.

Examples

Time to talk, without phones or kids.
Fun. We've got too serious.
Sleep-ins and slow breakfasts.
Being close again.
A bit of adventure, like a bush walk or a swim.

4. What would you like to leave at home?

Why we ask: Leaving some things behind makes room for each other.

Examples

Work.
Our phones.
The to-do list.
Bickering about little things.
Being Mum and Dad, just for a few days.

5. What would make this time together special?

Why we ask: It tells us what matters most to you.

Examples

Feeling like a couple again, not just parents.
Making a memory we'll still talk about in years to come.
Going home closer than when we arrived.
Toasting 25 years under the stars.
Just being together, with nothing planned.

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